January 2011
30 posts
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30 Days of Kink - Day #29
Day 29: Do you have a BDSM title (e.g. mistress, master, slut, pig, whore, princess, goddess, ma’am, sir)? What is your opinion of the use of titles in general?
To answer the first question, no. The second question is going to be slightly more long-winded.
As I have previously alluded to, whatever floats your boat, go for it, but the protocol thing’s just not for me. I don’t have...
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30 Days of Kink - Day #28
Day 28: How do you dress for kink/BDSM play? What significance does your attire have to you?
I don’t have a particular “thing” I go for, and I don’t wear what some would consider to be “proper BDSM attire” - leather, metal studs, big boots, etc. Not to say I don’t have things I like to wear.
At parties, I just dress comfortably. Now, comfortable to me...
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30 Days of Kink - Day #27
Day 27: Do your non-kink interests ever find their way into your kinky activities? If so, how?
Oh, of course. I don’t stop being me just because I’m doing something kinky, seeing as that’s part of who I am, and I’m very passionate about many things, and because of that, they permeate most aspects of my life.
The first is music. Even if we’re not listening to anything (usually because I forgot...
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30 Days of Kink - Day #26
Day 26: What’s your opinion on online BDSM play?
Online BDSM play? Online? I mean, I guess camming could be fun, but I just don’t see online BDSM being at all engaging. In fact, it seems rather pointless. ”Oh, baby, I love watching you flog yourself while you’re tied to the bed in a four-point harness sys… oh, wait. I guess you can’t really do that.” I...
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30 Days of Kink - Day #25
Day 25: How open are you about your kinks?
With who? I mean, that’s kind of a broad question. I’ll try to break it down a bit, then, based on what I figure the question might mean.
With Lorelei - Very, obviously. Isn’t that kind of the point?
With friends - Fairly open with some (the other “kinky” ones), and not very with other. I tried letting on a little...
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30 Days of Kink - Day #24
Day 24: What qualities do you look for in a partner?
I’m assuming this question is meant from a kinky standpoint, but I’ve only intentionally had one relationship with a significant kinky aspect - the one I’m currently enjoying. However, the things I looked for in Lorelei are the things I would look for in any relationship, kinky or not. I suppose this will read like a list of...
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30 Days of Kink - Day #23
Day 23: Since you first developed an interest in kink, have your interests/perspectives changed? How so?
Early on, trying to absorb everything and fit it all into the “everyday for the rest of my life” mold, it all became a bit overwhelming. My mind is great at generating slippery slopes, and it didn’t take much to go from “this minor thing is a bit odd” to...
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30 Days of Kink - Day #22
Day 22: What do you think is important in keeping a BDSM relationship healthy? How does it differ from a vanilla relationship?
This is kind of a stupid question, and seemingly informed by the “Kinky People© am more evolved!” mentality, or at the very least that “vanilla” is a somewhat lesser status. My opinions on that aside, the most important thing in any relationship,...
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30 Days of Kink - Day #21
Day 21: Favorite BDSM related book (fiction or non-fiction)
Well, in point of fact, I don’t have one. I’ve been wracking my brain trying to come up with something loosely related, even humorously related, and I just can’t. I haven’t read anything specifically kink-related, either, so I’m at a bit of a loss.
So instead, I’m going to complain about the lack of...
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30 Days of Kink - Day #20
Day 20: Talk about something within kink/bdsm that you’re curious about/don’t understand.
The curious bit I feel like I’m covering in other questions, but there’s plenty I don’t understand. For example: brown/golden showers. Seriously?
I mean, hey, to each their own, but I just don’t get that. Never have, never will. I couldn’t possibly be any less interested...
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30 Days of Kink - Day #19
Day 19: Any unexpected ways kink has improved your life? If so, what are they?
Well, the first, most obvious thing that comes to mind is that I have really great sex all the time. Some of that isn’t kink, per se, but rather being partnered with someone who has a particularly high sex drive. Being kinky doesn’t hurt, though.
Well, sometimes it does ;)
That said, I have found...
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30 Days of Kink - Day #18
Day 18: Any kinky/BDSM pet peeves? If so, what are they?
Pet peeves? Me? Surely, you jest. And, no, I won’t stop calling you “Shirley.” All kidding aside, it’s the people who say “you’re doing it wrong!”
I can’t stand the “This am SERIOUS kink!” types who say, to be a top, you must also be a Dom, and have one of the steamer trunks...
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30 Days of Kink - Day #17
Day 17: What misconception about kinky people would you most like to clear up?
I don’t necessarily have any misconceptions about kinky people that I want to clear up, but I do have a problem with how Kinky People© attempt to speak for everyone whose ever had sex outside the missionary position (still my favorite, by the way).
Not all kinky people are poly. Sorry, I know that’s a...
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30 Days of Kink - Day #16
Day 16: What are the most difficult aspects of having a sexuality that involves kink or BDSM for you personally?
I often feel bad because I’ve either addressed some of these already in other answers, or my answer now will delve into future question territory, but a lot of these questions have crossover. Plus, it’s my blog: I’m allowed to repeat myself.
That said, and in an...
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30 Days of Kink - Day #15
Day 15: Post a BDSM/kink activity you’re curious about and would like to try.
This is a tough question for me, because there’s lots of things that I’m curious about, but I’m not sure to what extent I’d like to try them. Sure, I’d like to expand my repertoire of what I’m already doing with Lorelei, and perhaps to try playing at a party, seeing as right now,...
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30 Days of Kink - Day #14
Day 14: How would you say real life BDSM/kink varies from fantasy BDSM/kink? If you haven’t experienced real life BDSM/kink how do you think it might differ?
I have to express concern over this question at the outset, as I would contend that all BDSM, with the exception of those who live it 24/7, is inherently fantastic, and that’s why we do it: because it differs from real life. When I...
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30 Days of Kink - Day #13
Day 13: Explain as best you can what the appeal of kink/BDSM is to you? Why are you drawn to what you’re drawn to?
As a Scene™, the only appeal it really has for me is that it’s a significant part of Lorelei’s life, and therefore part of mine. It’s not my thing, but c’est la vie - she seems to like the parties, so we go. She seems concerned that I’m doing it for...
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30 Days of Kink - Day #12
Day 12: Tell us about a humorous BDSM/kink experience you’ve had. If you haven’t had one, talk about aspects of kink/BDSM you find funny.
Well, I haven’t really had any humorous experiences, partly because my experience is limited, partly because I don’t “play” at parties, but probably mostly because I take it somewhat seriously. Probably too seriously, as with most...
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30 Days of Kink - Day #11
Day 11: What are your views on the ethics of kink?
My short answer is this: whatever floats your boat, if everyone involved is informed and consenting, more power to you.
There’s not really more that for me, I guess. The question, “How can you do and say such terrible things to Lorelei, and still claim to love her?” has been posed to me. Well, for one, she asked me to, and...
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30 Days of Kink - Day #10
Day 10: What are your hard limits?
Electricity. I don’t like electricity. I’ve been electrocuted a few times, and it makes me uncomfortable. I don’t want to be zapped, and I won’t do zapping. In fact, I don’t even want to be in the room when someone else is doing electric play. Just… no.
Also, feces and urine are right out. That goes for “chamber...
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30 Days of Kink - Day #9
Day #9 - Post a kink related song or music video you enjoy.
“Kind of Blue” by Miles Davis
“But, Felix,” I hear you screaming at your computer screen. ”What the fuck does the seminal jazz record of the mid 20th century have to do with kink?” Before you start hurling full wine bottles in my general direction, let me offer this explanation.
Mid-century...
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30 Days of Kink - Day #8
Day #8 - Post a kinky image you find erotic.
Of course, this isn’t necessarily inherently kinky, but the fact that this is obviously an office, the skirt, the instant submission…
Sorry, I need a minute.
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30 Days of Kink - Day #7
Day #7 - What’s your favorite toy?
Lorelei. Next question?
Aside from that, I’ve got a knife I like pretty well. Five-inch blade, German stag handle, and I keep it razor sharp. It’s great for cutting Lorelei’s clothes off, and getting her attention when I really need it. I also made a strap out of an old belt and some grip lacing, and it’s okay. But my favorite...
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30 Days of Kink - Day #6
Day #6 - Describe your weirdest/most interesting sexual fantasy.
Weird? I mean, this is about kinks, right? Plus, I’m inherently weird, so, like, what, normal people weird, or weird for me? ;)
That aside, my “fantasies” aren’t as defined as most others’ might be (no clear story line, etc.) - they’re more amorphous: I want to do this thing, try this thing,...
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30 Days of Kink - Day #5
Day #5 - What was your first kinky sexual experience?
Forgive me if I’m brief, and if my writing on this topic lacks the usual flair and witticism to which my loyal readers have grown accustomed, but not only is my sexual history a touchy subject (no pun intended), but this particular chapter is one I’d, for the most part, rather forget.
The aftermath of soul-dismembering succubi...
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30 Days of Kink - Day #4
Day #4 - Any early experiences that, in retrospect, hint at your kinks?
I almost wrote about this already, but realizing I was unintentionally answering a question early, I had to take it out. Don’t want to shoot my load too soon.
When I think back about early indications of the oddities that would later turn me on, it all goes back to when I was a five year old, watching Indiana Jones...
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30 Days of Kink - Day #3
Day #3 - How did you discover you were kinky?
This, to me, because I have to go against the grain with everything I do, is almost a misnomer. When I hear about people talk about “being kinky,” it seems to be more about being part of “The Scene,” as if to say, “I am now Kinky™, and shall do what other Kinky™ people do, where and when they do it!” That’s...
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30 Days of Kink - Day #2
Day #2 - List your kinks
Well, this list certainly isn’t comprehensive, as 1) I surely haven’t discovered them all yet, and 2) I tend to forget things. Also, I’m not entirely sure what all qualifies as a “kink,” per se, so I’ll just go with the things that really get me going.
As I previously alluded to, I’m a sadist. I enjoy the physical and mental...
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30 Days of Kink - Day #1
Day 1: Dom, sub, switch? What parts of BDSM interest you? Give us an interesting in-depth definition of what that means to you. Basically define your kinky self for us.
I “officially” declared myself a “switch,” in that I occasionally like Lorelei to slap me while she rides me, and I don’t really like the connotations that go along with the term “Dom,” so...
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30 Days of Kink
thedigressional:
Happy New Year, everyone - hope all of you had a fun evening doing whatever it was you were doing to bring in 2011 ;)
Tomorrow, in an effort to resume blogging (here and elsewhere) regularly, I’m going to start working on the “30 Days of Kink” list that I found online.
The list is contained below the cut. Feel free to complete it yourself, if you like :)
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